Going on dates is something which all of doing when we are dating, however, once you actually have children it is hard to find a lot of time to go on dates. This is because you either are doing things which are related to them, for example, we now spend a lot of our weekends spending time doing toddler-friendly things such as going to museums or the park which might not be things we did if we didn’t have a child. Doing housework is something which you spend a lot more time doing because toddlers as we have found make more mess which means you have to spend more time cleaning and tidying.
The amount of times that I have had people stare at me or judge me because I am a young parent is shocking. I have had occasions when I have heard people bitching about me when on public transport. One time a lady sat a couple of seats away from me was like oh look she can’t control her child she shouldn’t have had her I’m guessing she was a mistake. The reason that Jess was kicking off was that she was overtired after a long day at nursery and the train was rather warm.
I was 20 when I gave birth to Jess so you could say that it is young to become a parent. I was at the end of my second year when I had her 3 weeks off starting my final year of university. So as you can imagine from my circumstances I was not really ready to become a parent I was living in uni accommodation. A week after giving birth I moved over 100 miles back home to live with my parents in order to give her the best start in life.
Just because I am a young parent does not mean that I spend all of my time at home as a stay at home mum claiming benefits. Due to the way, the academic year falls I had to do it for a year before I went back to university in September 2016. I knew that it was a short-term situation and since then have not been on benefits I do get child benefit like everyone who has children as well as extra student finance due to my situation. Jess has never been a child that will go without anything that she needs she always has enough clothing, food, toys everything which a toddler needs. Having a child young for us doesn’t mean that we are not giving her everything she needs while we save for a family house.
Young parents have no ambition is something else which I have heard well I think I just prove everyone wrong with this at the moment I am in the last few months of my degree. I really want to continue and improve my self by studying in order to give Jess the best childhood I can. I really do not want to be someone who is in a job which they hate possibly on minimum wage not that there is anything wrong with that. For me, I want to be a positive role model for Jess showing her young mums and women, in general, can be anything they want to be. As long as they put their mind to it.
Another thing which I hear a lot is that young parents are more likely to palm their children off on grandparents. I am very lucky that my parents will offer to have Jess overnight maybe once a month so that I can have some time off Usually this time is spent either doing uni work or sleeping nothing crazy at all. I know a few people at least who have children who are younger than Jess and they seem to be out every single weekend sometimes during the week as well drinking. Just because they are doing it doesn’t mean every single young parent is doing the same. I for one know that when Jess is away it is time to recover and try and distress I can not think of anything worse than battling a hangover.
Keeping organised is something which I have to do as you know I am a Mummy, Student and blogger. This can take up a lot of time meaning that being organised is key. Today I am going to share how I keep organised on my blog I am thinking about doing posts on how I keep organised in other elements of my life in future posts,
The first thing which I spend a lot of time doing is scheduling tweets. I try and do at least 3 days worth of posts because it means that more of you lovely people are able to read my blog. I can see a lot of you come from my social media pages. Currently, I use buffer which allows me to schedule all of the tweets along with Facebook. One thing which I love is that I can use the app which means that I can schedule my social media when I am on the go which as you know is a lot. There is also hootsuite which you can use instead of buffer however, this is not something I have tried.
When you have a child one of the most used things which you will need is a car seat I think this is something which we used nearly every single day. Around 18 months ago we had to replace Jess’s baby car seat and I did a lot of research into finding the best car seat for us because of course, it has to be something which works for you all. Jess spends a bit of time when she is going around in the car. We chose the Jolie every stages car seat in the black colour this is one which is going to last her until she is around 12 years old or 36kg which is scary because it is such a long time away.
This car seat can actually be stripped down and the covers thrown in the wash which is something which we have had to do in the past because Jess can struggle with car sickness. This is handy as well if you have a small child in the car who could do the same I have also had to wipe it and found it drys pretty quickly which is amazing because if you are like us you are always using it. This car seat is very easy to actually install into your car and can be done in only a couple of moments which is great if you are like me and you might need to take it in and out to either put it in someone else’s car or due to the fact that there has been a spillage.
Jess must find this comfortable due to the fact that on more than one occasion we have found her sleeping in this for long periods of time while she has been travelling which proves this claim it even comes with thick padding on the shoulder straps and buckles meaning it is even more comfortable for the child. For sure this car seat is very well padded as well as being secure.
I am sure that I am not alone when I say I am sat dreaming of hotter climates while I spend a lot of time on the commute because as all know January is a month where most of us travel when it is dark in the morning and arrive home when it is again dark. Without factoring in the weather, we have had snow, ice and rain already this month. Some of us can not wait to have some sun on our backs in the summer in the UK is not guaranteed, and it seems months till people jet off on their summer holidays. Why should you have to wait that long when your children’s have a break from school next month in February or are you lucky like us and are not tied down to school holidays yet.
Just because it is February does not mean that you have to travel hours on a plane to somewhere like the Carribean for hot weather which you might not want to if you have young children. This for sure is not something which I would want to do with Jess yet because I know she would not sit for that long. You do not have to break the bank either February half term holidays deals can be found I found a holiday to Crete for only £123pp with the weather likely to be double the temperature of the of the UK. I think that travelling in February/March time is a good time to travel as it will not be as busy as in the summer which may night suit you should you have young children like Jess. Also, it will not be too hot which could be a problem should you go in the height of the summer.
Have you ever travelled in a half term?
Today I thouight I would share with you some of the beauty products which I have been loving over the past few months I could not tell you how long some of them I have been using however, these are the ones which I have been reaching for every single time I have been wearing make up. As you can see from the picture some of these are actually tools which I have been using rather than an actual product.
The first product which I have been using to apply my foundation is actually a beauty sponge I think this one was part of a pack which I purchased from Primark a few months back. I know this one is in deprate need of a clean this is a job which I really need to get done at some stage soon. I think the pack which I got had around 5 different make up sponges and I have been using the pink one which you can see in the picture as well as a smaller orange one which I use under the eyes.This pack was around the £2 mark and for sure is somethng which I can see myself purchasing again in the future. I love the way it makes your foundation look it does not make it seem like it is cakey at all instead it is more of a natural finish and this is something which I am always looking for. Recently I have acutally got the beauty blender that this is a dupe for so I will be intrested to see how the this compares to the orgainal.
Real techniques brushes are something which I have used for a long time now it must be at least 4/5 years and it is not until you try another brand of brushes that you realise how amazing these ones are. They are not too weighty which I find amazing because frequently will I have to travel with them they also I have found do not allow you to apply too much make up. The eye brushes allow you to blend out eyeshadow making it look like you have made such an effort and spent a long time blending when this is not the case at all. I think my favourites out of the ones which I own is the blusher brush is very soft and easy to clean which is great for busy people like me however, the element which I like the most is the fact that you can blend which does save you looking like a clown for sure a look that nobody wants at all.
All these early mornings and late nights end up taking their toll which means that I need a concealer which is going to make me look like I am wake and full of energy even when this may not be the case. My trusty Rimmel Wake Me Up Concelear for sure make me look like I have had hours of sleep of course I have to blend this out with the beauty sponges which I mentioned. This for sure hides the those tired eyes by lightening them up this is a concealer which I would only recommend using under your eyes. The reason behind this is because of the fact that it is a highlighting concelear which means that it would make spots even more obvious something which nobody wants at all. This is a product which I will continue to repurchase because we all know more sleep is something us mum’s and students always need this product will not break the bank because I think it is only around the £5-6 mark and I find that a tube of this last me around 3/4 months depending on how tired and how much I reach for it.
Boujous healthy mix foundation is another product which makes me look like I have had a bit more sleep than I have an that my skin is more healthy and radient than it actually is. It is like putting on some magic cream which makes you look a lot more awake a look which I think most of us need in January when it is a bit grim outside. I find this foundation is medium/high coverage which means that it covers all of the blemishes and the majority of spots which I get however, if I get a bad spot I sometimes do need to still use concelear to hid it. This does have a natural dwey finish which I know may not be to everyone’s taste but for me I think it looks like my skin but better and this is the look which I would rather be achieving. This is a foundation which is actually under £10 and will not make you look orange at all which is a bonus for me because this for sure is not a look at would want at all.
Who doesn’t want better eyelashes for me I always want them to look like they have more volume and a little bit more length than they actually do. For the past couple of years I have been using the Maybelline Lash Sensational Mascara which I have found has always been doing the trick some how it manages to make your lashes longer and give them volume without making them look like spider legs. I have found that on day which I have not been wearing mascara I look like I am very tired because my eyes look less open therefore looking less wake than I actually am. Again this product is not one which is going to damage the old bank balance too much as it is around £5-6 but this does start to dry out after a few months however, I do actually prefer it when it is drying out. I know you are meant to replace your mascara every 3 months however, I have to admit this is not something which I do currently.
Rimmel 107 is a shade which people were raving about a few years ago for me it is one of the most perfect winter shade it is a kind of dark red colour which I always seem to reach for at this time of year maybe because I think that it suits been with a paler skin tone something which I have to rock at this time of year. |For me it does look like a berry tone red shade this is a lipstick which I have found to wear evenly which means that you do not end up having lines where it has worn away again thsi si a lipstick whcih I can wear for 3-4 hours without having to reapply this includes me eating and drinking throughout this time. I can not remember how much this lipstick is however, one thing which I am aware of is that it is actually under £5.
Seen as most of these products have been around the £5 mark I thought I would share with you a couple which I have been loving which have not fallen into this bracket. The first been the Benefit Goof Proof eyebrow pencil for sure this is something which I love it allows me to make my brows look a little bit neater in between getting them wax or threaded I love to have neat but natural brows. I did get colour matched by a lovely lady called Sian who matched me to shade 4 I feel like I never have found a pencil which is so soft and you can actually work with. The spoolie on the other end means that you do not have to carry one around with you which is always a bonus when you want your brows too look neat.
The final product which I have been loving is the Diesel Loverdose perfume this is the scent which I can be found wearing on the weekend more than when I am just at uni. This is actually like no other scent which I have found previously to me it is a little bit dark this could be due to one of the key notes actually been liquorice and rich vanilla. This is something which I can smell for a long time after applying it usually I can smell it when I go to bed which is at least 10 hours after applying it. I adore the bottle of this as well I think this is one of the first reasons I picked up this perfume for sure you could attract all of the men wearing this.
What products have you been loving recently?
I know that when you are thinking about saving money you are trying not to so be a lot however we all know that we have to spend money. Whether it be gifts which you need for people such as people having birthdays or items which you need to replace.